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Family Problems
Some people
like big families, while others think that small families are
better.
As someone has rightly said: "The family is the nucleus of
civilization". A person's upbringing and education starts in his
or her family and it is in the family that values, norms and
ideas are communicated from generation to generation. Families
can be big and small. Some families consist of parents and their
only child. But there are families where several generations
live together and where there are a lot of children.
In my opinion, big families are better than small ones. Firstly,
when there are two or more children in the family, they are used
to helping each other and sharing responsibilities. They learn
to live in a "community" where every member is equal. Secondly,
when a child has brothers and sisters, he or she is not likely
to become egoistic because parents share their love and
attention between all their children. And finally, it is
difficult to feel lonely when one has a big family.
However, some people say that they would prefer to have a small
family. First and foremost, one needs less money to support a
small family. Parents who have only one child don't have to work
much and therefore they can spend more time with their son or
daughter. Besides, when several generations live together, there
is often misunderstanding between older and younger people
because of their different experiences, opinions and habits.
To conclude, it does not matter if the family is big or small.
The most important thing is that it should be happy and united.
That is why it is essential to maintain harmony and the
atmosphere of love, mutual respect and understanding in the
family.
Nowadays quite
a lot of young people choose to conclude marriage contract.
Others say that it is an absolutely useless thing.
Unfortunately, nowadays a lot of marriages break up. For
many men and women divorce turns into a nightmare because it is
often connected with quarrels and partition of property.
Sometimes a wife and a husband can become real enemies arguing
about who will take the flat or the car after their separation.
If they have small children, everything becomes even more
complicated and painful.
Personally, I am convinced that it is wise of young people to
conclude marriage contract. Marriage contract is a mutual
consent about mutual rights and duties before marriage, in
marriage and after it. The contract takes effect on the date of
the civil marriage ceremony. It regulates property relationship
between spouses and determines their rights and duties. What is
more, marriage contract can determine property rights and duties
of spouses as parents. It is very convenient that spouses can
change their marriage contract during their marriage. They also
have the right to cancel it.
However, some people say that a person who concludes marriage
contract shows that he or she does not trust his or her spouse.
And if there is no trust in the family, it is likely to break
up. Besides, when young people are going to get married, they
should think about love, not money. But I still believe that
both men and women should be responsible and they should think
about their future.
To conclude, it's up to you to decide whether to conclude
marriage contract or not. But in my opinion, it makes people's
lives easier in case of divorce and helps avoid quarrels.
In modern
society old people and their grandchildren usually live
separately and don't communicate too much. Some people say that
it is quite natural, while others think that the old and the
young should spend more time together.
Nowadays there are few families where several generations
live under the same roof. Children and their grandparents don't
see very much of each other. But is it good or bad for both the
old and the young?
Personally, I think that children and their grandparents should
spend more time together. Children always need much attention,
but their parents usually work too much. But pensioners always
have time for kids. Old people feel useful and needed when they
have somebody to take care of. They also become more active and
more interested in life and their physical and psychological
health improves. What is more, grandparents can pass their
knowledge, skills and experience to kids. At the same time the
young can show the old how to use a mobile phone or a PC.
But unfortunately, there is less and less contact between
children and their grandparents nowadays. Some families live in
small flats where there is no room for grandparents. Other
families leave for big cities and have neither time nor
opportunity to visit their ageing relatives. As a result, many
old people have no contact with children and feel lonely and
depressed. Children who are separated from their grandparents
also suffer from lack of attention, love and support. So I think
parents should do their best to bring the old and the young
together.
To conclude, the advantages are enormous for both the old and
the young. If grandparents and children spend more time
together, they will learn to understand and respect each other;
consequently, there will be less conflict in society. Besides,
there will be fewer lonely old people and more happy kids.
Nowadays a lot
of people adopt children from overseas. Others are sure that
there are many children who need parents in our country.
A typical family usually consists of a couple with their
children. However, some people can't have their own children for
different reasons and they choose to build a family through
adoptions. In recent decades international adoptions have become
increasingly popular.
Nowadays the growing number of men and women adopt children from
foreign countries including Third World countries. Every time a
Hollywood celebrity adopts a child from overseas, more and more
ordinary people want to follow his or her example. To my mind,
it is not right to adopt children from abroad only because it is
fashionable and because other people say that it is good.
On the other hand, many people believe that adopting children
from foreign countries has a number of advantages. Firstly,
children's biological parents will hardly interfere in their
lives. Secondly, people think that international adoptions help
build bridges between communities and create a culturally
diverse society. Personally, I think that it is not wise to
adopt children from foreign countries when there are thousands
of orphans in our country. They also need loving families and
permanent homes.
In general, it is a good deed to adopt a child either from
abroad or from your own country. Anyway, people must be
responsible and they must take care of children who need their
love and attention.
Some parents
think that young people would better live independently, while
others believe that it may spoil the relationships between
children and parents.
All parents dream of raising responsible and self-reliant
children. But when their nice little kids grow older and demand
independence, most parents don't know what to do. Moms and Dads
can't stop wondering if they should let their sons and daughters
live independently or if young people would better live with
them.
To my mind, young people should live on their own. I believe
that children's job is to try their wings and parents' job is to
let them fly away. For example, in the USA young people usually
move out of their parents' house at the age of 18. A grown-up
person who is still living with his or her parents may be
considered "immature", or "tied to the mother's apron strings".
Young people who live far from their parents and try to earn
their living are usually more responsible and emotionally
mature.
Some Moms and Dads want their children to be independent so
much, that they stop influencing their lives. As a result, young
people completely forget about their parents1 existence and
visit them only once or twice a year at the best. Some parents
feel unhappy and lonely because they have to live in an old
people's home where they miss their children and grandchildren.
I strongly feel that parents ought to love, protect and guide
their children in order to avoid such a sad situation. And
children ought to take care of their aging parents in their
turn.
To conclude, I believe that lifelong bonds between parents and
their children are extremely important. No matter how old you
are or where you live, you must never forget about your parents.
Some parents
think that if their children are disobedient, they should be
stricter with them. Others say that love and understanding will
help solve the problem.
Have you ever met an ideal child? I don't think so. Small
children are very active, inquisitive and sometimes naughty.
There are kids whose behaviour can be called notorious and
unbearable. They constantly give a headache to their parents and
teachers. Why does it happen and what should parents do in such
a situation?
Personally, I think that if parents want their sons and
daughters to be cheerful, self-confident and socially
successful, they must be loving, caring and attentive to their
children's wishes and needs. Grown-ups ought to show warmth and
affection towards their children. Of course, sometimes parents
should be strict, but they must always remain fair. They should
use punishment and praise appropriately. I love and respect my
parents because they prefer discussions and explanations and
value compromise.
However, some Moms and Dads are still convinced that if they
spare the rod, they will certainly spoil the child. They think
that if they punish their children, their sons and daughters
will grow into well-behaved adults. Such parents choose to be
very strict with their offspring. As a result, adults achieve
the contrary effect: their son or daughter becomes estranged and
feels rejected. I believe that pressure and fear are the worst
methods of upbringing.
To conclude, it is parents1 duty to make their child happy. Many
psychologists say that there are no problem children, there are
only problem parents. Mothers and fathers should be wise,
loving, considerate and consistent. As soon as children feel
that their parents love, understand and support them, they will
have a desire to please them and to improve their behaviour.
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